The Good, the Bad and the Ego!

"If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable,you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise." - Robert Fritz Humanity's biggest dilemma is how we choose. Whats the best decision? Whats right, whats wrong? Should I listen to my head or my heart? And then of course, there is the dreaded "What if?" and "Now what?" that comes before and after making a choice. After some thought, it appears the real question is: Is there such a thing as a good choice or a bad choice? If yes, then how do we know the difference? Everybody's life, at every moment, is paved with multiple choices. Choices that will shape and reveal the next step, the next experience, the next joy or sorrow. For most people, making a choice or a decision can be quite stressful. They are torn between two options cannot figure out which of the two is better or right. This stress can be accompanied by anxiety, fear and the risk factor that comes with choosing one path over another. Some people use the "pros and cons" method to clear their confusion, while others just end up procrastinating or taking no action (which is also a choice in itself.) Every choice has a consequence - and the truth is that we cannot choose our consequences, we can only choose our actions and intentions. Sometimes our consequences don't turn out the way we expect them to, even though the choice we made felt totally right. Why is that? It's because we live in a society that sees everything as two: right or wrong, black or white, pain or pleasure. We refer to this as the perception of separation, the world of duality, or of "either-or" - simply put - the world of EGO! This ego based perception is what leads us to falsely believe that there is "a choice" to be made in the first place. And what is the choice really based on? It is based on our limited perceptions. As humans - blinded by the ego, we cannot possibly see the bigger picture; the grand scheme of things. So the ultimate question of a good choice Vs bad choice simply boils down to nothing more than - "A choice from the Spirit Vs A choice from the Ego." When it comes to the dilemma of making choices - instead of getting tangled up in opposites & choosing between this 'or' that - we can start by clearly looking within us. We can reach for the field of the spirit, that energy, that voice within that speaks to us all - Slow down, Listen to the silent whispers... your Inner Being - your consciousness is always showing you the way! It is "A knowing" that has no opposite, no alternative, a feeling of "This is it!" This option is aligned to our higher purpose. The answer is not "out there" it is "in here." The next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel the need to choose, step back, observe your urges, your old thought patterns. Notice how your ego automatically divides things into good and bad, this or that. Release these images. Channel your energy differently. Affirm your intentions. Make positive affirmations. Let go of all previous expectations. Relax into the moment. Surrender yourself. Move beyond ego. Reconnect with your true self. Breathe deeply, meditate, or walking silently through a park. Become aware of the trees and plants around you. Slow down the compulsive chatter in your head. Have faith that the next step will reveal itself. Know that the "right" answer is always the one you end up choosing. It will feel natural and automatic as if it was made for you, not by you! - Radhika Kinger